Sharing is Solving [TMP #70]

A problem shared is a problem half-solved.

Got a new laptop battery and probed why I couldn’t write consistently. Now I’m back, consistent as ever, because I’m not an Arsenal fan. :)

This week at a glance:

• Sharing is Solving

• Book Club 📖

• TMP Archive 📝

• The Gallery 🎨

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Sharing is Solving

It's not new; we've heard it before.

But we will keep hearing it because it's true: A problem shared is a problem half-solved. Humans are resourceful; telling someone a problem increases the chances that it'll get solved.

That might mean that you get a solution, you get directed to the solution, or you simply reduce the emotional burden of your problem— which anyway means that you direct yourself to the solution, because you’re in a clearer state of mind. (That's how therapy works btw. Mostly.)

How do I know this to speak like I’m so sure? Take a seat, dear.

It relates 😂💀

You see, in my third year of uni, I dropped from a first class. All hell did not break loose, though (and really, your life is more than a grade). But I understood—or got to understand exactly what that grade meant to me. Not status, family pressure or some other reasonable thing. I had to find my why, but that’s a different takeaway.

I ended up confiding in a friend about my academic woes and my strong desire to bag the very best I could give: a testament of my work ethic, that I have it in me to do whatever it is I set out to do. Go out with a bang, ya know.

And what did my dear friend say? Something along the lines of “you know, you can't just want it. We have to plan it.”

That, ladies and gentlemen, is the story of how I whipped out my laptop, sat down with this babe on a window sill of my school’s chapel, and together, came up with all the possible scenarios with minimum limits for the remaining three semesters all so I could bag my goal while treading within a margin of safety. That's not all, though. With her, I straightened out why I wanted it in the first place, because, well, goals are not enough; you need your why. And it definitely was not to “go out with a bang”.

I’m no longer in school, but there’s a lesson in there that I’ll continue to live by: a problem shared is a problem half-solved (or ask for help or have people you can go to for help or … you get the point. Hopefully).

However peculiar your situation is, don’t forget to ask for help because sharing is solving.

Selah,

Dayo 🫠

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Book Club 📖

A friend sent me Pastor Laju Iren’s Dating Intelligently, something I’ve wanted since the beginning of the year. Anyway, it’s the audiobook, which I actually like. (Score 1 for audiobooks). I have about an hour left, so yay me!

Almost done with Peter Thiel’s Zero to One. I like this book. Guy is also definitely not afraid to bash anybody. (Because he’s Peter Thiel, duh).

p.s:

if you want to read my last book review, it’s right here. (That’s JBP’s 12 Rules for Life.)

but if you want to read the book review I’m most proud of this year, it’s heavenly right here. (That’s C. S. Lewis’ The Four Loves.) C. S. Lewis is/was a top guy. Period.

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TMP Archive 📝

The Bamboo Stock Market Course 1.0 (🤭)

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The Gallery 🎨

“My art series on Yoruba names of God is still some of the best work i've ever done till date.”

Because twitter previews still won’t show and I don’t want any copyright issues🥲.

But they truly are beautiful.