I have used three weeks now to write this post. Every week with a new version, and so here it is before my brain fractures. (Can brains fracture?)
Also, sucks that I couldn’t get my PVC because I had to travel. Could you?
For today, though:
Little Miss Could Never Be Me - The End of History Illusion
Book Club
Best of the Internet - ‘What Peace of Mind Looks Like’ + A YouTube channel
The End of History Illusion
To think you have arrived at a conclusive definition of yourself— who you are, what you stand for, and most severe of all, your opinions on issues and topics— is a lie your brain wants you to believe so badly. We hold an opinion today and then fast forward: we’re doing the very thing we said we would never do. ‘Could never be me’ in the mud. But is that ideal? Is that bad?
Deep this:
People have a fundamental misconception about their future selves. Time is a powerful force that transforms people’s preferences, reshapes their values, and alters their personalities, and … people generally underestimate the magnitude of those changes. In other words, people may believe that who they are today is pretty much who they will be tomorrow, despite the fact that it isn’t who they were yesterday.
Source: The End of History Illusion
That you think the earth is flat and argue vehemently about it today does not mean you will still think the earth is flat the next day. This isn’t even far-fetched. I used to call myself an anime hatred evangelist because I advocated for more people to hate anime. (Very explanatory.) But now? I still hate it. Lmao but with less intensity that at this point, I’m only trying to stick to an old label.
The point is that change is constant, and we should expect no less of ourselves. How can we even hold such rigid stances on people and situations when there are such things as time or growth? People change, including us. For good or for bad. And that’s normal. At no point in life does one come to a final encompassing view on anything or anyone.
The thing is a rigid opinion on anything is often a product of limited knowledge, limited experiences, or just plain ignorance. Emphasis on often. As much as this is an exhortation to realize that we are not necessarily who we were yesterday, it’s just as important to extend that grace to other people. Cancel culture is just disgusting.
Stay safe,
Dayo
Book Club
Last book club, I started the book ‘A Man Called Ove’ but dropped it a paragraph in because:
It’s a comedy (not a fan);
I remembered that I have a goal to read more non-fiction (trying to change my usual).
So, I started ‘Build Your Dream Network’ by J. Kelly Hoey.
And I am loving it! I expected pragmatic steps but now I’m getting lessons on generosity. You should check it out :)
p.s: this has to be my longest book club section.
Best of the Internet
One YouTube Channel - Talks at Google
What peace of mind looks like:
started a man called ove, nice book, so far. glad to see anime hatred has reduced lol